I’ve got a friend in failing health (very slowly, I hasten to add) who’s just hit a couple of bumps. And I find the bumps more shocking than the overall health picture.
This doesn’t make much obvious sense.
Is grief partially a reaction to a change in circumstance? The loss of a job, the change of a state (after pregnancy, maybe), the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship? Is the reaction to losing a thing and a person fundamentally the same thing, merely differentiated by degree?
I’m not personally changed by my friend’s bumpy health, but it saddens me. When someone dies, we say that that person is going to a better place, and yet we mourn. So it’s for us, not for them.
It must be time to go back into the sun.